Milestones, Gaps and Falling Behind: Phonics and Reading

This post is part of a four-part series: Milestones, Gaps and Falling Behind.   Find links to the rest of the series at the bottom of this post. 

Nothing plagues a new homeschooling mama more than anxiously waiting for the day her child will catch up to the neighbor kid who has been reading chapter books since they were four.  I personally know the panic that arises when your child has indeed not to learned to read “in 100 easy lessons.”  Let’s talk about phonics and reading comprehension.

How Language Arts Works

Phonics is the subject that is introduced when a child is learning to read.  It teaches the child phonetic sounds from the alphabet and how to combine them together to create words. Once a child learns phonics and knows how to read, all other language arts is just a deeper dive into language mechanics and advancing into more complex texts (this happens pretty naturally if a child is immersed in a print-rich environment).

Your new motto with learning to read is: mastery over milestones.  What you need to focus on right now is not getting to a certain point by an arbitrary time.  What you have to do is help your child to gain mastery over foundational, skill-building subjects.  You want them to have basic reading skills because then the door is wide open for everything else.  Everything from here is simply a deeper dive into the same material, breaking it up into its more granular parts. 

For example, once a child learns to read they might do a spelling curriculum that helps them exclusively practice spelling words.  It’s just extra practice to sharpen their writing and reading comprehension.  You don’t have to do all of these things at once, either.  You can choose to focus on a different piece each school year and refine as you go.  We practice just by writing in different ways.  My kids have progressed in language arts without using any curriculum, but they do have a spelling book that they choose to use sometimes.  

If you really feel like you need to do spelling and grammar at some point, I would encourage you to first build meaningful context into language arts by reading fascinating books and writing fun things in the elementary school years.  Later when this enjoyment and context is established, you can move to sentence diagraming and rules about commas. (Which by the way, most adults have forgotten most of this and still we’re a functioning society somehow! I just took a class on book editing with a professional grammar nerd though, and it was a lot of fun!)

When Should a Child be Reading?

In terms of when you accomplish mastery over reading, you have a big block of time before you. Honestly, as a homeschooler you have as long as it takes! 

It takes about thirty hours for a developmentally ready child to learn how to read.  This typically occurs around the age of seven, but according to the research of Dr. Raymond Moore, the optimal age is eight and can even take some kids until ten.

We panic about this because in school you have to know how to read by third grade because you move from “learning to read” to “reading to learn.”  The teaching style in a conventional third grade classroom will prevent a non reading child from doing schoolwork.  A child who doesn’t know how to read by the third grade will be lost and often categorized as having behavioral problems.  (I would be having behavioral problems if I were completely lost in a classroom too!)

But you don’t have that barrier as a homeschooler!  You can keep teaching your child all subjects in at any level while they are simultaneously learning to read.  

You can even teach writing while they are in the process of learning to read by having them do oral narrations and dictate to you as you write.  Expression and organization of ideas are the building blocks of writing.  Phonics, handwriting and grammar are the mechanics.

Even dyslexic kids learn how to read all the time, it just takes more time, extra support, and unconventional approaches!

I recommend taking the time to read this article by Dr. Peter Gray. 

Now What?

I have a full post about teaching children to read called The Everything Reading Post here

Go here for the post about topical subjects (history, literature, science and geography)

Go here for the post about math.

Go here for the post about starting ages and grade levels

For further reading like this, you can get my free curated book list for homeschool mamas here, with over sixty titles to encourage you on your journey.  If you’re just starting, go here to read my collection of “Getting Started” blog posts.